Strengthening my friendships

Even though I know no one reads these posts, I have tried to find other blogs to link to mine to gain inspiration from. I am not very good at reaching out to other people. I really want to be close to other people though and closeting myself away every day is not the answer. It is never to late to start being a friend, and even though distance has come between some of mine I will continue to try.

I have one lady who is close to my age, in her mid 20's with one 3 year old boy and one 7 month old daughter. She is a lovely lady. I see her every time I go to church or a church activity. Every time we have seen each other we promise to talk or call or get together and it's never happened. So I'm going to reach out to her today and hopefully she will want to do something with me. I don't think it was just politeness that keeps her talking to me each sunday, but I do think we just havnt crossed that akward bridge of aquaintance to friendship. Which sometimes can seem more big than it actually is.

Another relationship I'm working on is the lady who will be called Carol in here. She is a lovely woman in her late 30's early 40's. She has 3 girls ages 14 to 10. Although her 14 year old looks like she is 18, its quite scary lol. Anyways, we are going to a nearby animal fun park. I think they even have a petting zoo which will be lovely for my little girl, who is just finding her feet. I hope the sunshine holds out as well.

The two other relationships that give me most stress is my Mum and Mum-in-law. My mum lives in America and to be honest the distance between us makes our relationship better I think. We have a date for sunday afternoon to webcam and voicechat. So she can see her grand daughter for the first time in over a year. It's the best I can do with out seeing her in person, which isn't possible at this time. The other Mum in my life lives across the town from us, we stayed with her until 2 months ago when we finnally started renting a place of our own. We're becoming closer now that we don't live together and we have many common interests, including art. She is a wonderful artist.

The last relationships I strive the hardest on are of course my wonderful husband Al, and my daughter Nat. It's easy with Nat right now, I know what cries mean what, and what she wants from me most days. My husband is always more complicated but I do my best to honor love and support him behind the scenes. I take great pride in making the house a spiritual refuge for him. I also love talking ot him about everything and learning new things with him.

Just the other day I bought him a DIY book so that we can learn how to do up a few things around the house together. He usually ends up doing most the manual labor, he loves going over his ideas with me and talking endlessly about what he wants to do and buy and make. It makes me so happy to see him happy, and normally I'm not even a DIY person. Although the technical part of it is really interesting to me. This is just one side of our relationship i'm trying to make more harmonious. I'm trying to get him more involved with Nat and myself, so we all play together more and laugh together more. I also love going on day trips with him. The last few days have been a wonderful experience with my husband as we talk about our unborn child and our plans for the future. He has opened up a lot about whats going on at work and has been very honest with me. I don't have all the answers to make relationships work, I only know what works with myself and my husband. I constantly pray for guidance and reevaluate how I treat my husband and when I try more I see the effort he puts forth in response. He is very intuitive to what I need if I only give him the space to try.

So my plans for today are to follow my list a bit, and get the house hoovered today as it hasn't been done in almost 3 days, which is horrid when you have a one year old dragging who knows what everywhere. :) Hopefully Al and I will go on a day trip to a bigger city than our little town. Thanks for reading.